Is it True?

Five things that are wildly popular, but not always true.

Some days, clearly, are better than others. Not a single one shows the entirety of our full picture.

We can’t tell which image we see online is the truth of a person’s soul, life or circumstance. We believe that we know because what was taken versus what is true is OUR interpretation of the images we see.

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We are master movie makers in the digital media we put into the world. We see the image of a beautiful woman (assuming she’s beautiful) walking through a field of flowers, but often times, never see her face. What would it look like if we were able to see her face in that moment?

Would she be crying? Is someone forcing her to walk in that field? Is she allergic to the flowers, but really wanted the shot? Is she stoned or starving hungry because she wants to fit in, but also wants to stand out?

We assume she’s happy, peaceful and content with her life.

Why?

Because we need her to be in order to complete the picture in our mind.

In today’s climate, we have to have one of three things to be considered desirable

  1. Great wealth
  2. Great beauty
  3. Great status

If you have any combo meal of these, you’re accepted into the fold.

Without them, you are left to your own devices to manufacture your life on your own.

The irony is, after working your tail off to achieve success status, then, and only then, do those same OG powerful people want to slip into your DM’s to collaborate with you.

Translation for my generation ~ only after success is achieved do people want to be around us.

Another trend I’m noticing is that the MOST successful influencers are also coupled up with someone who strangely, looks like them. Happy couples are all the rage right now.

They don’t necessarily have an advantage over solopreneurs, but they do have someone else to hold the camera and write the script.

Is it real life? Not always. But we NEED our influencers to be to be whole, complete versions of our ideal life.

In a world full of chaos, we need to believe in the happily ever after.

Like the cute 1st time mom with financial abundance, giving parenting advice while hiding the train wreck that is her internal struggle. OR, the handsome dude who was a monk for a year because he lacked direction, but because he is dreamy in his appearance, people flock to him for advice.

Where is the tired mom of four kids who is not cute, but has been through hell and back, and she’s tired but wise? I want to know her.

Where are the unattractive monks who practiced their peace for decades, alone, not hanging out with Oprah? I want to know them.

I firmly believe we can learn a little bit of life from all of them.

Not all life from any one of them.

What came first? The expert opinion or the illusion and followers who demanded to know more. Are they experts or just … popular?

Ah, now there’s a great tale to tell.

The five things that are conditional at best?

  1. Thinking positive thoughts will fix everything ~ it won’t. It helps, but not always. This social expectation can actually devastate someone who is struggling.
  2. No response is also a response. Sure. An immature one that denotes a lack of confidence in one’s self, not to mention a common tactic of a gaslighting narcissist.
  3. Smiling people are happy people. Sometimes, people smile to sell you something. Sometimes, to disguise their pain. One never knows without also noticing the nuances of the human themselves.
  4. Thin people are happier than heavier people. This is a wildly socially accepted sizesm that is simply not true for all people. It leaves out way too many variables.
  5. Wealthier people are those we should look up to. Nope. Only a few. Not all. Again, variables. I have little interest in hearing what a trust fund baby or full ride Ivy Leaguer has to say unless they also contribute a whole hearted goodness to the world. Those who are backed so they simply can’t fail, aren’t necessarily the best motivational speakers. They are just the ones who can afford to try.

I ask questions ~ millions of them. It doesn’t mean I’m criticizing as much as I’m critically thinking about the reality of what I see.

I narrow the questions down as I learn until … I make my own hypotheses.

In other words, If I call bullshit on a thing, it’s because I spent a lot of time studying that thing for a great while.

Does anybody care? Not necessarily. But then, not a one of us are here to live the lives of others. We are here to learn about our own lives, and our own journey.

My master’s training in community psychology taught me to question everything and everyone. My doctoral training taught me to observe all the nuances and variables before assuming anything or anyone to be true.

Today?

We are just blindly accepting meme quotes or 3 minute talks as if they are gospel.

People want easy button answers or solutions. Those are NOT the truth of a thing. They are the lazy answers.

Sadly, there are some truly damaging concepts floating around that are wrecking people’s ability to appreciate the hard work it takes to make it in this world.

To all those who feel like a failure, or an Unsuccessful person, or someone who is exhausted from working just to make ends meet ~ please know … I HOPE you know … working toward a goal takes a hella more than just thinking about what you want.

Manifesting (regardless of the science or philosophy behind it) ~ takes focused, determined, hour by hour work. In equal measures, it also takes a LOT of letting go and trusting that the work will pay off. A day off is as detrimental to your success as the days on.

Keep going … it’s the journey, not the destination.

I know!!!! I’m quoting memes on purpose. To be ironic. Perhaps, sardonic. LOL

Cheers to your journey … it really is one of the great meme truths that is true.

K~

@happinessnoir @inkhoneypub

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WordPress is Pressing …

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I have to organize my thoughts, time and schedule. It’s the only way to make it as a small business owner.

Especially when I am the everything for the company.

Well, the cats say they help, but seriously, they only help in forcing me to remember that I have to work hard enough to earn money to feed them.

In truth, the LAST thing I want to do is battle with a website. Formatting sucks. Figuring out what went wrong and why this post will go to that page, which there are two distinct customizing tools that don’t talk to each other … is a nightmare for me.

I sometimes feel like Alice AFTER falling down that stupid rabbit hole.

I’m flying solo on this small business journey.

That means, there will be flaws

It’s a great reminder that the big name writers and researchers have a team of people who do this perfecting for them. The bigger the name, the bigger the team. The more famous they are, the more likely they hired a ghost writer to write those books.

I have nothing against ghost writers OR celeb motivational speakers who proudly go on chat shows to say, “I wrote a book!” when most of us know … they spent 6-figures to have karen from Kansas do it for them.

BTW, the name thing. It’s a thing. I’ll write about that another time. I’m trying to focus on one theme across all platforms for each week. This is not Karen’s week.

It’s “Energy”.

Just like in Life Coaching, where the client sets the agenda, I am concentrating on ONE theme per publishing tour through my writing adventures.

In case you didn’t know … I decided to give Tik Tok a try. The @inkhoneypubtour is named after my theme idea. Only on TikTok, I’m giving equal space to the cats.

Rescue Cats

Foster Kittens

Rescue Dogs

All creatures great and small deserve some space on the real estate of life.

Whom I will NOT give up my real estate for are the haters and belligerent broken who LOVE to pick fights or harass humans. No thanks. No forks given.

I also decided to streamline this out of sheer laziness.

IF I want to publish and cross publish, I have to clean up my potty mouth.

I am not afraid of words, but I know that certain words make people twitch. I’ll save all my forks for the pub tour in privately published books, but leave them out of my social media. It’s not for me. It’s for you.

That’s also another topic for another time.

I’m going back to my writing around the internet now … I even created a schedule (those who know me would be shocked at how organized it is). This B brain is a creative, NOT a natural born analytic.

OH ~ for anyone whose been reading my bog here … you might ask why I started all over again.

Writers will get why I just dumped 200,000 words.

New Year. New Writing. New Chapter.

It’s really that simple.

I get easily distracted when I have too many tabs open ~ it’s how my brain works

AND

I actively work on letting go of the past so that I can stay present for a better future ~ that’s how my soul works.

Cheers to your New Year!

K~

@happinessnoir @InkHoneyPub

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