Words are never about the words

We don’t cuss or use words to “shock” someone.

Danielle Kopek

We use words to describe our lens on the world.

When I started this blog (on September 25th to be exact) ~ I kvetched about yet another white, male faculty member who let’s his cuss words fly at will who was being gross with his students.

Honestly though …. after almost three decades of hearing about, witnessing and experiencing white male faculty members using their power over female students or less influential members of the campus community ~ I have had enough.

If the elderkin women in academia aren’t going to speak up for our younger women ~ who will?

A whole bunch of people in my field were all, “How rude!” BUT …. these same people continue to support the guy who was talking about his explicit sexual appetites WITH his students who needed his approval for their degree conferment.

That’s f*cked up.

That’s social justice flipped on it’s head.

I grew up around, then survived the boy’s club for WAY too long to stay quiet, and I was never demur.

I’m sharing two of my favorite women doing the work in helping other women to find their voice. Clearly, the field I was in will continue to find words, written by a woman without Oprah money or Michelle power to be offensive. At the same time, they continue to celebrate a man who gets away with penis talk in the hot tub.

I need a page to share the mass media that I think will help others, or that I found to be useful in the darker side of healing from happiness.

Which is traumatizing a LOT of people.

Using cuss words in our language means that we are comfortable enough in our own skin to not think twice about changing who we are to suit the comfort zone of others.

And …

It’s declaring that if you make room for a guy to say whatever the f*ck he wants but you shut a female down for saying the exact same thing … you are part of the problem, not the solution.

PLEASE go stand in front of a powerful female executive and tell her that her words are not appropriate.

I’ll wait here. Let me know how it goes.

Words. Words. Words. Words. Words.

I’m listening ~ but I’m also not changing to fit someone else’s comfort level. Are you?

I’m a fan ~

K~ @InkHoneyPub

Published by happinessnoir

Writer | Advocate | Free Range Female | Change Agent | Essayist

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