Why I’m totally fine NOT finishing the NaNoWriMo in 30 days.

November felt like a month of Mondays …. like, ALL the monkeys got out of the barrel. It’s never been a good month, but is that a mindset? Checking it twice …. the most deaths in my family are around now (fall is when they fall) … my brother on the 21st back in 2007,Continue reading “Why I’m totally fine NOT finishing the NaNoWriMo in 30 days.”

Did you NaNoWriMo this year?

I didn’t finish, and have a long way to go, but I may still. My little Yoda looking micro Sasquatch of a dog was my writing companion. I get up from too long, realizing he wasn’t complaining to let him out. He didn’t stare me down, demanding psychically that I feed him. Again. Little dudeContinue reading “Did you NaNoWriMo this year?”

Push out the Gratitude like it’s a 10-pound baby

That’s the way it feels sometimes. They try to tell us HOW or WHY or WHEN to be grateful. Then, they (the collective professional field of they’s)… shame or blame us if we are NOT guilty for not feeling gratitude all over the place. Gratitude is being spread around like bad mashed potatoes. A messageContinue reading “Push out the Gratitude like it’s a 10-pound baby”

Rocco’s getting better!

So my dog is bouncing back. I have no idea how, since I was agonizing over taking him to the Vet last Monday … to help him die in peace. I’m glad I didn’t. Today, he looks like a little old drunk Popeye, … a little wobbly, can’t walk much, but he’s still here. ThisContinue reading “Rocco’s getting better!”

I’m on a Paws

Since we are jamming on the health of my still alive old dog AND finishing the novel in the NaNoWriMo …. I’m going to leave y’all here for a while. Flipping careers in the middle of a career is a surreal process. Everyone has an opinion about your life. Ignore them all. They aren’t livingContinue reading “I’m on a Paws”

Women Writers #NaNoWriMo

There’s a girls club that goes with the NaNoWriMo mission. They gather together, have write-in’s and zoom calls. They get together for wine parties and cheer each other on. Me? Heart palpitations. This is the very thing I’ve never felt comfortable … ever. I’m not a joiner. Or a gatherer. I’m more that solo loneContinue reading “Women Writers #NaNoWriMo”

We are only data to them. Save your emotions. Reclaim your life.

Every time we comment, we are data for the analytics. Every time we feel our emotional tug to respond to some random post by a public page, we are generating hype for them, not us. So WHY, in an age of reclaiming our lives, are we turning toward the mass of media to offer ourContinue reading “We are only data to them. Save your emotions. Reclaim your life.”

Gaslighting ~ set it on fire.

#MeToo and #MeTooPhD are both movements that were intended to help people to finally come forward with their trauma. They said, “I’m going to own this narrative, and it will not rule my life or emotional trauma ever again”. Then, they were gaslit … again. And again. And, again. Toxic, psychological bypassing types said, “You’reContinue reading “Gaslighting ~ set it on fire.”

Today, I met a starseed

We went to a farmer’s market today in a place that has some magical … something … in the air. The organic, delectable, hand woven things are beyond anything you can find in any store. In an age of shipping containers stuck, and big box stores paving paradise to put up parking lots, it’s timeContinue reading “Today, I met a starseed”

Refuse to be tamed

Writers and women who refuse to comply with societal rules that tell you who you are, don’t let them tame you. Don’t let them shame you. Be who you are. Take up space. Speak your mind. Be out of place. Don’t let them tame you. Let them know you’re there. Shout to the rooftops. StayContinue reading “Refuse to be tamed”

Two memes and a ghost story

I may cuss from time to time, but I never use the middle finger … well, nearly as much as I’d like to when driving long distance. It’s not wise. Which is why when I saw this one, I was very entertained. I love the history of the thing. Forever more, I will now understandContinue reading “Two memes and a ghost story”

Yes, but … did you meme it? In Theory?

Carl Jung lived from 1875-1961. We still hang on his every word. Sort of. There is that little thing about psychology where we appreciate our foundational understanding of the human condition, but we don’t have to stay stuck in the theories of the past. Theory Our job is to question them, not become their cheerleaders.Continue reading “Yes, but … did you meme it? In Theory?”


Reclaim your life. Wake up and decide in that moment that you hold all the power. You are going to make the day the very best of your life. I know. Sounds corny in a motivational speaker smarmy sort of way … and yet, it is how you break those patterns of negative thinking. Don’tContinue reading “#Reclaim_Your_Life”

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Yesterday, I had a little panic attack. I looked up from eating in the car ~ bad food choices happen ~ but that’s another conversation. I stared into the eyes of a man sitting in a white HRR who was stopped at a stop sign. That stupid shaggy beard with his thinning man bun. ThatContinue reading “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”

Middle Aged Women Are Unpacking

On Tik Tok. On Twitter. On Facebook & Pinterest , Tumblr and even … on LinkedIn. See, we, the women born in the 50’s, 60’s and even into the 70’s are talking about our life experiences. Those of us who lived with and tolerated years of abuse, are talking. It’s scaring the shit out ofContinue reading “Middle Aged Women Are Unpacking”

Post Traumatic Meme Disorder

We read the memes and hear the non-expert experts toss out whimsical advice on how to live our lives in the pursuit of happiness. This past year, my coming of age was realized. It just came at a much older age than I had realized. Instead of trying to change the wind ~ I adjustedContinue reading “Post Traumatic Meme Disorder”

2020 ~ We could have come together. Why didn’t that happen?

This year has been a lot ~ for all of us. One thing I noticed is that people … have gotten meaner to each other ~ online and to a certain extent … in person (just ask the folks working those “essential worker” jobs … And before you gaslight me with, “you are the peopleContinue reading “2020 ~ We could have come together. Why didn’t that happen?”