Duplicitous Nature of ~ well, everything.

Life is never fully easy ~ until we punch our way through the duplicitous nature of that which stands in our way. It’s a strength building exercise in awareness. The easy answer to having the life we want is to focus ONLY on that life, and nothing, nobody else until we’ve achieved it. We areContinue reading “Duplicitous Nature of ~ well, everything.”

~ So ~ how much do we get involved?

The whistleblower ~ followed by the Ooopsy from Facebook/Instagram/Whatsapp/Messenger ~ followed by ~ sorry … we seemed to misplace our keys ~ followed by … well, ya know … it’s a long list. My cat was thrilled that I was offline, hanging with her more yesterday. Look at that face. She’ll in heaven 🙂 MyContinue reading “~ So ~ how much do we get involved?”

it’s a good time to check in with the social media addictions

All day ~ Facebook and Instagram have been down. I hear WhatsApp and Messenger are also but I don’t use them. Sounds like a Zucker-punch by someone 😮 Somebody is monkeying around with our friends at the mega money makers. I’m SO glad I was a happy-go-lucky human long before the internet came around. MYContinue reading “it’s a good time to check in with the social media addictions”

You don’t have to be ___________ to be a happy person ~

There is a growing stereotype that seems to be attaching itself to happiness. The thing is ~ We have to be flexible in our understanding of what ‘happy’ looks like. You can be sad, and still, at your core a happy person. That doesn’t mean you’re leaping and jumping with joy all the time ~Continue reading “You don’t have to be ___________ to be a happy person ~”

Poetry breathes life into the soul. F*ck purpose for now.

“I can not control what makes people stay or what makes people go.” “I can not control how other people receive me or how other people act in our world.” Those statements ~ …. those two simple little statements ~ … took years … no, … Took me decades to come up with and overContinue reading “Poetry breathes life into the soul. F*ck purpose for now.”

Banned books? ~ Dangerous Liaisons.

The moment a human decides that some form of art needs to be banned, be it literature, or paintings, movies, documentaries, poetry, visual or performing art ~ long list, short blog ~ in that moment … we lose a piece of our humanity. Why? We look away from what scares us ~ we become afraidContinue reading “Banned books? ~ Dangerous Liaisons.”

If it is dark ~ they will come ~ The write life

I missed it. I didn’t pay attention to the details. It didn’t bum me out, but it sort of did. TODAY is National Coffee Day but the deals? They were yesterday. Those tricksters. So? Disappointing but also ~ ya know ~ who doesn’t want to drop $3.59 +tx on a cup of coffee that wasContinue reading “If it is dark ~ they will come ~ The write life”

Can’t spill the tea today ~ it’s national coffee day!

Today is like Halloween for grown ups. 🙂 Addicted to caffiene grown ups that is. Today’s the day we all drive around from one java joint to the next, in search of the free coffee. Yes, I did say addicted. Yes, it’s perfectly normal Yes, we are exploring the world at large while finding ourContinue reading “Can’t spill the tea today ~ it’s national coffee day!”

Okay. So you’re happy(ish) ~ Now what?

You grieved. You processed. You followed all the self-help books. You may have even taken a course, or linked in with some big names in the happiness game. You spent all your diet industry money on the happiness industry, in hopes that you could kill two birds with one stone. You followed Oprah, bought allContinue reading “Okay. So you’re happy(ish) ~ Now what?”

Happy Hour from the Gram ~ therapy style

Guess what? ALL of these people fight for happiness ~ but happiness has different voices ~ different styles ~ a different feel ~ different labels. This is what I actually do for my own happy hour ~ I cloud watch ~ or stare at nature, soaking in the sounds of wildlife. This IMO, is aContinue reading “Happy Hour from the Gram ~ therapy style”

What’s the opposite of “positive”? It’s not negative.

I googled it to cut some time in locating a definition. 229,000,000 answers. I just don’t have that sort of time. Hold on, I need to grab my coffee for this one. I’ve been watching the spider build this web for over a month now. The lawn dudes keep swiping it away as they meticulouslyContinue reading “What’s the opposite of “positive”? It’s not negative.”

The 444 showed up again, but so did the 555 ~

According to numerology (as I have read it), I am surrounded by angels (the 4’s) and big changes are coming my way (the 5’s). I’ve just heard that another retrograde is happening and the fall equinox recently opened a portal of light ~ in other words ~ we’re very busy over here ~ making myContinue reading “The 444 showed up again, but so did the 555 ~”

Everything has a shadow side ~

There is a shadow side of everything. There is a nuance to the helping profession that many people in it, don’t want to own up to. Others wish it had more light so that we could fix a systemic reality that nobody wants to talk about, but effects all of us. Everyone has a shadowContinue reading “Everything has a shadow side ~”

Happy Hour Saturday style ~ Favorites edition.

I scrolled Instagram ~ most of my social media is filled up with industry professionals rather than people I know. “Believing in RomCommunism is believing that everything is going to work out” ~ Ted Lasso I love the inspiration of women who are in the business of helping women when it’s a visual day forContinue reading “Happy Hour Saturday style ~ Favorites edition.”

Can we be too consciously aware to enjoy life?

Yes. I’ve just spent thirteen months being as quiet as possible (for me, I’m no monk on a mountaintop + ~ I talk to my cats out loud). I literally live on mountain top but I’m no Jay Sexy Shetty. I think the monks who make it have to also give up their monkish waysContinue reading “Can we be too consciously aware to enjoy life?”

Thank you for unfollowing ~ the happy hour.

20 people in my “friend” group ~ all members of the ever expanding positive psychology movement I’ve been part of since 2006 ~ unfriended me when I started writing this. Why? When I used to know everybody and though, I wasn’t interested in the lime light, I did appreciate the academic networking over things toContinue reading “Thank you for unfollowing ~ the happy hour.”

I made a promise to myself ~ now it’s trending …

Years ago ~ I promised myself to walk away from everything and everyone who was not right for me. I’ve decided to not keep my pain secret because I know there is someone out there right this very second who needs to hear that they are not alone; they are not crazy and they areContinue reading “I made a promise to myself ~ now it’s trending …”

It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt ~

This is something that our mothers told us ~ and their mothers before them ~ but I bet in my grandmother’s wildest nightmares, she never would have had to tell her grand daughters and great grand daughters how to survive the men closest to them. Or? Would she? It’s not just how to protect ourselvesContinue reading “It’s all fun and games until someone gets hurt ~”

If it isn’t broken ~ don’t fix it.

Ah, the simple life. We’ve all complicated it, then spent the rest of our lives trying to simplify it after we level up to a certain … not age, but awareness. This quote about worrying ~ everyone I know with anxiety ~ and there are a lot ~ will either flip it the bird, or,Continue reading “If it isn’t broken ~ don’t fix it.”

Can we normalize not being “normal” please. Yes. We can.

Can’t stand cliche’d anything. Women who are obsessed with shoes? Tight, high, pinching shoes? Gross. I’d rather be barefoot or in flip flops. I’d rather be in casual clothes all the time. I don’t like make up or doing fussy things to my hair. Does that make me less than? Depends on who you talkContinue reading “Can we normalize not being “normal” please. Yes. We can.”