Why I’m totally fine NOT finishing the NaNoWriMo in 30 days.

November felt like a month of Mondays …. like, ALL the monkeys got out of the barrel. It’s never been a good month, but is that a mindset? Checking it twice …. the most deaths in my family are around now (fall is when they fall) … my brother on the 21st back in 2007,Continue reading “Why I’m totally fine NOT finishing the NaNoWriMo in 30 days.”

Did you NaNoWriMo this year?

I didn’t finish, and have a long way to go, but I may still. My little Yoda looking micro Sasquatch of a dog was my writing companion. I get up from too long, realizing he wasn’t complaining to let him out. He didn’t stare me down, demanding psychically that I feed him. Again. Little dudeContinue reading “Did you NaNoWriMo this year?”

*Flash*Notice*Drama Mama …

If you are stalking or trolling another human being on the internet as a power trip (and I think someone just did that to another person who was reading my blog) …. what’s wrong with you? Get help. Trolling is popular, but it’s toxic popular, like all other mental illnesses or social deficits, it’s aContinue reading “*Flash*Notice*Drama Mama …”

I’m on a Paws

Since we are jamming on the health of my still alive old dog AND finishing the novel in the NaNoWriMo …. I’m going to leave y’all here for a while. Flipping careers in the middle of a career is a surreal process. Everyone has an opinion about your life. Ignore them all. They aren’t livingContinue reading “I’m on a Paws”

“Ignore Everyone, Write your book”

Who was it that said, “Ignore everyone, write your book” first? Every motivational best selling author I’ve heard speak (and there are a lot of them) have repeated this time and time again. Redundant or important …. both are true. With social media, the need to interact with others on a daily basis seemed importantContinue reading ““Ignore Everyone, Write your book””

My dog is dying

Rocco. He’s been with me through hell and back a few times. Little man is a 16 year old chihuahua. My pets are my everything. My cat Charlie lived to 21. I’ve had tragic stories about others. Pets are collateral damage in divorce wars, as they are in every hard life story. Out pets areContinue reading “My dog is dying”

Gaslighting ~ set it on fire.

#MeToo and #MeTooPhD are both movements that were intended to help people to finally come forward with their trauma. They said, “I’m going to own this narrative, and it will not rule my life or emotional trauma ever again”. Then, they were gaslit … again. And again. And, again. Toxic, psychological bypassing types said, “You’reContinue reading “Gaslighting ~ set it on fire.”

Today, I met a starseed

We went to a farmer’s market today in a place that has some magical … something … in the air. The organic, delectable, hand woven things are beyond anything you can find in any store. In an age of shipping containers stuck, and big box stores paving paradise to put up parking lots, it’s timeContinue reading “Today, I met a starseed”

Refuse to be tamed

Writers and women who refuse to comply with societal rules that tell you who you are, don’t let them tame you. Don’t let them shame you. Be who you are. Take up space. Speak your mind. Be out of place. Don’t let them tame you. Let them know you’re there. Shout to the rooftops. StayContinue reading “Refuse to be tamed”

Two memes and a ghost story

I may cuss from time to time, but I never use the middle finger … well, nearly as much as I’d like to when driving long distance. It’s not wise. Which is why when I saw this one, I was very entertained. I love the history of the thing. Forever more, I will now understandContinue reading “Two memes and a ghost story”

Yes, but … did you meme it? In Theory?

Carl Jung lived from 1875-1961. We still hang on his every word. Sort of. There is that little thing about psychology where we appreciate our foundational understanding of the human condition, but we don’t have to stay stuck in the theories of the past. Theory Our job is to question them, not become their cheerleaders.Continue reading “Yes, but … did you meme it? In Theory?”

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Yesterday, I had a little panic attack. I looked up from eating in the car ~ bad food choices happen ~ but that’s another conversation. I stared into the eyes of a man sitting in a white HRR who was stopped at a stop sign. That stupid shaggy beard with his thinning man bun. ThatContinue reading “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”

Middle Aged Women Are Unpacking

On Tik Tok. On Twitter. On Facebook & Pinterest , Tumblr and even … on LinkedIn. See, we, the women born in the 50’s, 60’s and even into the 70’s are talking about our life experiences. Those of us who lived with and tolerated years of abuse, are talking. It’s scaring the shit out ofContinue reading “Middle Aged Women Are Unpacking”

Post Traumatic Meme Disorder

We read the memes and hear the non-expert experts toss out whimsical advice on how to live our lives in the pursuit of happiness. This past year, my coming of age was realized. It just came at a much older age than I had realized. Instead of trying to change the wind ~ I adjustedContinue reading “Post Traumatic Meme Disorder”

2020 ~ We could have come together. Why didn’t that happen?

This year has been a lot ~ for all of us. One thing I noticed is that people … have gotten meaner to each other ~ online and to a certain extent … in person (just ask the folks working those “essential worker” jobs … And before you gaslight me with, “you are the peopleContinue reading “2020 ~ We could have come together. Why didn’t that happen?”

Women are writing

Kindness is being criticized in the media (saw a cartoon in the NYTimes) I am acutely consciously aware of how the past 7 years have radically changed my life. I died several times over. Nobody came to save me. I saved myself. I gave up everything that was holding me to a place, to people,Continue reading “Women are writing”

Opened Too Many Tabs

When you run a business flying solo ~ you are everything ~ right now, I have three tabs open ~ I’m trouble shooting a tech issue AND gaining a proper headache trying to follow the tech support folks who are trying to help me navigate. Add in my daily java ~ now my brain isContinue reading “Opened Too Many Tabs”

Boundaries ~ Thriving ~ Defining

This blog is my glass house. I’m sharing what I’ve acquired along the way on my journey through this life span but I have boundaries. We all need boundaries. For me ~ it’s personal but it’s also a professional lens on how I got to a writing life as a full time career. **The workContinue reading “Boundaries ~ Thriving ~ Defining”

Words are never about the words

We don’t cuss or use words to “shock” someone. We use words to describe our lens on the world. When I started this blog (on September 25th to be exact) ~ I kvetched about yet another white, male faculty member who let’s his cuss words fly at will who was being gross with his students.Continue reading “Words are never about the words”